So here is my question... Has anyone else experience a ROUGH patch in their marriage after bringing home a new baby? you can read a post i wrote for another meme HERE and find out what is going on if you want.. Im at my witts end and ready to pack up and move out.
Aw, I'm so sorry you feel that way!! Unfortunately I'm probably not the best person to ask about this since I'm not married, nor do I have a new baby >.<
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I think rough patches happen to everyone. Just make a conscious effort to re-connect and find what it is you love about that person. Work through it and keep an open mind. I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear you're having those issues. When I had my son and stayed home for a few months, I think my ex saw things as him being the only one working so I should be responsible for everything else. When I didn't match that expectation, he got cranky. I think you have to sit down and have a discussion about how you are feeling and how he is feeling. Sometimes guys get strange after they become dads and they don't share what's going on with them. He might be feeling a lot of pressure etc. Hopefully you and he can communicate and come to a compromise about what things you each can do to help each other with the stress of having a new baby.
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Definitely. After my son was born (my two are 14 months apart) my husband and I were in survival mode. It was really tough for awhile and we lost ourselves in our kids. But we stuck it out and now that they are older we are doing much better. Good luck with everything, I hope it works out the way you want it to.
ReplyDeleteSLowly raises hand. yes the first yr was just awful but I can tell you this. My husband never talked to me like that or our children no matter how upset or tired he gets. I think your hubby needs a little vacation. Send him off on a trip to visit his buddies or out for the night with friends on a weekend. If he comes back refreshed than he'll be okay. IF he still acts like a jerk, let him read that post. AND tell him if he doesn't change he'll be talking to the wall. YOU don't deserve that verbal abuse. TIMES are hard yes but you're doing more than your fair share. HUGS. Maybe you can get away for a week or so to get a break. SOUNDS like things will be very rough for a while if you don't make a move. HUGS
ReplyDeleteyes we did!! we had twins!! just had to realize that thats what it was and communicate!!! It has passed but it took alot of work and patience towards each other!!!
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