So what is working for me this week is making a tough decision.. Here is the link to explain what is goin on. There is link in that post as well Both explain WHY I ended up in the hospital last night with pre term labor.. I'm home now and the baby and I are fine but I still dont know how to solve this complicated problem.. PLEASE LEAVE suggestions... I'm praying about this but still have no solution. and make sure to check out WE are that family for more WEDNESDAYS
Oh my goodness!! That is really stressful for you! What does your husband say? I know the logical solution would be to tell her to leave, but I know she is your sister and all.
ReplyDeleteSometimes tough love is the only option in a situation like that. By what you wrote, you aren't doing her any favors by letting her take advantage of you all. Not knowing your family or everything involved it is hard to say. Hope you can find peace in the midst of your storm!!
ReplyDeleteThat is one tough situation! I know you must be torn between love for you sister and the need for some peace in your home. I would give her an ultimatum: Either she starts being part of the solution--carry her own weight in the household such as clean up after herself, be respectful in front of your children, or she has to leave. Leave the decision up to her. Be upfront about what you expect from her and that if she can't meet the expectations then she is essentially choosing to leave. That way the ball is in her court. You aren't kicking her out, she will be kicking herself out if she can't be a responsible adult.
ReplyDeleteI hope that didn't sound heartless! I've had some experience in this type of situation, too and it's not easy!
ReplyDeleteYou took her into your home to help her out - she in turn was to help you out. Since that has not happened, I say you tell her it is time to go. The health and well-being of your immediate family, your unborn child and yourself should be your only concerns.
ReplyDeleteTell her to leave. Sorry if I sound heartless but you can only give someone so many chances. The stress is only going to get worse once the baby is here.
Ah! Easy for us to say, when we haven't walked a mile in your shoes. We all have known someone who has taken advantage of us and has drained us of our goodness. What concerns me is the bedrest. I, too, was bed ridden. My son had so many complications. As I reflect back, I remember that my life was in turmoil and am wondering if our emotional health generated or assisted in the premature labor. I realized with my third that my emotional well being needed to be a priority to the fetus inside me. I can't even tell you the difference in the birthing process and the bonding process. It was night & day. So, that being said, I feel that your sister is effecting your health & the health of your fetus & the health of your children & the health of your marriage. Unfortunately, tough love is the answer. Explain all this to her and then give her ample time to get herself situated somewhere else. You have to give her a specific date or it will not happen. Specifics are very important. Good luck and I wish you peace and serenity! Hugs and kisses!
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